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Complaining…..it holds you back!
You’re complaining…it’s raining or what else is bothering you? Did you ever stop and LISTEN to all the whining and complaining? It will wear you out. I stopped in my local coffee shop for my daily cup of coffee and listened while the owner complained to every customer. She complained that her help never shows up. She complained about customers complaining and today was the day she was going to call up an interested buyer to buy the shop. Then my twenty one year old daughter came home from a long day. She complained about school and her job. Be more positive I advised, ” See the good.” Her reply: “I don’t want to hear your BS right now.” My client showed up ten minutes late and complained that the driver in front of him was driving ten miles per hour in the snowstorm and braking every two seconds. Later that same evening, I visited Facebook to hear all the complaints about the recent Massachusetts State Senatorial election. WOW….. I’m even complaining about everyone complaining!
I invite all of you reading this Blog to join me in eliminating this bad habit…after all, it keeps you from focusing on the important things in life. Here are my recommendations:
- Stop yourself before the complaint comes out of your mouth.
- Take a deep breath.
- Ask yourself, what is the purpose of my complaining?
- Does complaining make things better?
- Do you have the need to be right at the expense of making others wrong?
- Complaining is a habit that needs & can be broken.
- Keep score and reduce your # of complaints per day….remember, life is a journey.
- Accept yourself and others for who they are……not who you want them to be.
I believe that if you take this step, you will start to view the world through a ‘different lens.’ Life is a gift…..including every experience and person that touches you along the way. It, truly, is a wonderful life!
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Tiger Woods ~ Judgment Day!
Judgment is truly low energy and something that keeps us from reaching our true spiritual potential as human beings. The media once again is in a feeding frenzy over the Tiger Woods’ situation. Television and radio talk hosts are debating the character of Tiger Woods. I don’t know about all of you but I am tired of this. Gossip serves the lower aspects of our souls because we delight in the fall of grace of a wealthy, public figure. It makes us feel good that someone so successful has screwed up.
The most famous spiritual teacher, Jesus said: “He who has not sinned cast the first stone.” All of us have the potential inside of us to commit any of the seven deadly sins. I know that the only person in this world I can change is ME. I made a decision quite a number of years ago to stop judging other people. This has required a lot of mental self discipline and observation of my own inner world. Every negative aspect of humanity lies within me…it is not outside of me. We have been given a book of rules and when any deviates from them, we all hammer our gavels with a guilty verdict. It is time to toss out the gavel and the rule book. On a spiritual level we don’t know the full spectrum of the lessons within an individual soul. For example, Betrayal can be a huge opportunity for a person to grow spiritually. ….the betrayed as well as the betrayer.
1. Stop yourself from judging and criticizing another person. Let’s make a commitment to ourselves not to engage in gossip and purchase material that preys off the difficulties of others. See if what you’re judging in another person’s character is inside of you.
2. Cultivate the virtue of compassion for others as well as for ourselves because ultimately one day we all will fall down from grace.
3. Offer each other a helping hand, rather than a life sentence of guilt and shame.
Remember, mistakes can be our greatest teacher…….however, you are not the Judge or Jury for others – be compassionate!
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Cherish or Perish ~ Balloon Boy, Jon & Kate, Michael Jackson
CHERISH…..what a lovely word. Our children need to be cherished. Society says that children are our national treasure, but our actions say otherwise. The recent balloon boy incident is clearly a demonstration of using children for the parents’ own self-interest. The poor child spoke the truth and seconds later, vomited in fear of his father’s wrath. Michael Jackson is another example of a child used for his Father’s ambitions; he craved for his childhood to be returned to him by creating his Neverland ranch. Clearly Michael never healed from being forced into the spotlight and abuse. Fame and fortune never gave him the inner peace and love he wanted so desperately. He had to numb himself daily.
Every night we are bombarded with ‘Jon and Kate’ stories both proclaiming the love and concern for their children while their actions are totally the opposite. It’s easy for all of us to sit in front of the television and judge these people and self righteously declare that we would never do that. But we all do this, one way or another.
All the great religions of the world proclaim that love is the answer, but how many of us truly know how to love? It is time to remember.
1. CHOOSE differently. Each day choose peace, harmony, truth, integrity, and love.
2. FOCUS on creating a firm foundation for yourself and family of health, prosperity, and love.
3. LEARN from the lessons of your life experiences. Stop repeating old patterns of negative behavior and blame.
4. FORGIVE and it will fortify you. Our history shows that all of us readily pick up a weapon to retaliate. Jesus said it best: “Father forgive them. They know not what they do.”
5. BREATHE in love and thoughts of love. This is your true purpose.
CHERISH yourself. CHERISH life. CHERISH your children, family, community and friends. So, I challenge you to look inward and find where you are withholding love……be the love you seek!
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