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It’s a wonderful world!

Thanksgiving is just days away and it’s a wonderful American tradition that started right here in Massachusetts with the Pilgrims and Native Americans.  Sometimes when things are difficult, we forget how much we already have. Years ago I worked with an incredible man that had developed Lou Gehrig’s disease (ALS) at the early age of forty one.  Every week I would make a house call to support his wife and himself through this horrific ordeal. I thought I was there to help him, but it turned out to be quite the opposite……he was helping me.  I watched him struggle to speak and eat.  He loved his cup of coffee but struggled to sip it through a straw.  He was incredibly brave and his wife so stoic, as she raised three young children and continued to do everything in her power to have her husband heal.

Find gratitude in the simplest things that you take for granted everyday.  You can walk, talk, speak and hold your own coffee mug.  You can hug those that you love.  Enjoy the tiniest things in life, as it is truly a miracle to be here on earth. If life has you down right now because of some circumstances, take in a deep breath and exhale fully.  Ancient mystics always used breathing techniques as a tool to higher consciousness. We all have the ability to choose how we deal with & perceive an experience.  Be grateful for everything that you have drawn towards you……even if it is painful.  The ability to feel is a gift.

George Weiss and Bob Thiele wrote in their classic song ” I see skies of blue and clouds of white, bright blessed days, dark sacred nights and I think to myself, what a wonderful world.” Take a moment & enjoy the famous Louie Armstrong. Happy Thanksgiving!!

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Divorce……make it work!

Relationships are the key to our “enlightenment.” How we feel about ourselves is always reflected in our personal relationships. People blame others for all of their unhappiness, but that is clearly one of the biggest lies that we can tell to ourselves. No one on this planet is perfect, but we can be perfect for each other through love and acceptance. When one needs to be “RIGHT” to make the other” WRONG” this is a fundamental error in developing a spiritual and more evolved relationship.

A divorce is a somewhat like death, where life changes create a personal and spiritual transformation. Personally, I believe in divorce….two people should not stay together if they do not love each other. With that said, it remains totally destructive to draw weapons and go to battle in divorce court. If children are involved, they are exposed to their parent’s venom and wounds. Did you ever think that if you want to end a marriage, you do not need an excuse or reason to make your partner wrong or bad?

.A self-aware individual will look within and find the reason that the relationship is not working….an emotional, immature person will always put the bulk of the blame on the other. When two people relate to each other, both of them equally carry the responsibility for the relationship. Difficulties and fears arise in our interactions when you are still blaming the other person. You look at their faults and tend to magnify the situation; your expectations can never be met at this point.

If you want a relationship to blossom, start with being kind to yourself. Give up your own self hatred and your negative distortions and attitude towards yourself. Extend love to another person freely without control or underlying fear. Two people coming together in a loving relationship is one of the most powerful and joyful experiences a person can have. If you decide to divorce, do it with respect for your former partner….. leave the drama for television!

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Tiger Woods ~ Judgment Day!

Judgment is truly low energy and something that keeps us from reaching our true spiritual potential as human beings.  The media once again is in a feeding frenzy over the Tiger Woods’ situation. Television and radio talk hosts are debating the character of Tiger Woods.  I don’t know about all of you but I am tired of this. Gossip serves the lower aspects of our souls because we delight in the fall of grace of a wealthy, public figure. It makes us feel good that someone so successful has screwed up.

The most famous spiritual teacher, Jesus said: “He who has not sinned cast the first stone.” All of us have the potential inside of us to commit any of the seven deadly sins. I know that the only person in this world I can change is ME.  I made a decision quite a number of years ago to stop judging other people. This has required a lot of mental self discipline and observation of my own inner world. Every negative aspect of humanity lies within me…it is not outside of me.  We have been given a book of rules and when any deviates from them, we all hammer our gavels with a guilty verdict. It is time to toss out the gavel and the rule book. On a spiritual level we don’t know the full spectrum of the lessons within an individual soul. For example, Betrayal can be a huge opportunity for a person to grow spiritually. ….the betrayed as well as the betrayer.

1. Stop yourself from judging and criticizing another person.  Let’s make a commitment to ourselves not to engage in gossip and purchase material that preys off the difficulties of others.   See if what you’re judging in another person’s character is inside of you.

2. Cultivate the virtue of compassion for others as well as for ourselves because ultimately one day we all will fall down from grace.

3.  Offer each other a helping hand, rather than a life sentence of guilt and shame.

Remember, mistakes can be our greatest teacher…….however, you are not the Judge or Jury for others – be compassionate!

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