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Shaman Mother’s “7″ Golden Rules before you get pregnant – #6 Find Fulfillment within Yourself!

Golden Rule #6 – Find fulfillment within yourself!

I have often heard excited new mothers stating that they felt complete after giving birth. It is wonderful to feel complete with a new baby, but really believing your words can ultimately lead you down a difficult road with your relationship with your child.  No one here on earth is here to complete you. This is your job. Wholeness comes from within.  The more you accept this as a truth, you will not be placing unrealistic expectations on your child. How many people have you witnessed that are living through their children?

What to do / Action Steps:

1. Right now, in this moment, review things that you dream of being doing or having. Becoming a parent doesn’t equal giving up on your fondest dreams. The more you explore the uncharted areas of your life and consciousness, you will start to discover the treasure within you.
2. Be present with your thoughts, feelings and actions. If you observe and understand you, life will become a lot of easier. This is the magic you want to pass on to your child. A loving, caring parent, complete within themselves is the greatest gift you can offer a child. The more you are ‘the real you.’ the more you allow your child to grow into being themselves. Can you imagine what the world would be like if people could just be themselves? This is possible…..but only when the mother and father experience the truth within themselves.
3. Take time out every day to connect within, through pray and meditation. Love you enough to be the real you. We can all create heaven on earth just by being the love we seek. The love is in you. So much of our lives are wasting energy of being what we think the world wants us to be. The media bombards us with false images of being feminine or masculine.

As we contemplate bringing a life into the world, we must learn to love ourselves first, in a deep spiritual way (not narcissism) Find out who you truly are. Are we our education, our clothes, our cars or our homes? We would quickly say that we are not ‘our’ things, but isn’t that how we really live our lives?  There is something more. Each one of us is divine and when we start to live from our hearts and not our heads, we can usher in an era of children who will develop and grow as their spirit has intended.  Remember…..the magic is in you!

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Shaman Mother’s “7″ Golden Rules before you get pregnant – #2 Heal the relationship with your Birth Parents!

Golden Rule #2 – Heal the relationship with your Birth parents

  Whether you’re conscious of it or not, most of us are carrying in our subconscious minds issues with our birth parents. Most of us did not live in a television sitcom as pure as “Happy Days.”  Dysfunction exists in ALL families one way or another. How we relate to others is interconnected from our conception and early childhood experiences.

 The ideal situation is to start doing some inner housecleaning before you get pregnant. The more you sweep away the hurts and resentments towards your parents, the more it will enhance the relationship between you and your child. The Mother-Child bond is a core foundation to every infant, as Freudian psychology points out.

 What to do/Action Steps: 

1.  Start examining issues with your parents. If we start to self-reflect and observe the friction we have with our parents, we will begin to develop more self understanding.
2.  Realize that your parents are human and stop resenting them for not being your perfect ideal.
3.  Go back into your past and start to FEEL painful memories. ‘Feeling the feeling’ is a powerful tool to release old baggage. Don’t be afraid to experience hurtful feelings.
4.  Write down all your poisonous, hateful feelings and memories. Read them out loud and then rip up the paper;  say “these feelings are no longer part of me.  I forgive you for not being whom I wanted you to be.”
5. When revisiting the past experience with your parents, visualize the painful experience in a more positive and uplifting way. Create the resolve that your inner child craves for.
6.  Stop blaming your parents for your own unhappiness as an adult. It is time to allow mature and accepting feelings to flow through you.
7.  Allow your childish and immature feelings to surface. Don’t judge these feelings. It is healthy to let them surface, then bury them deep in your unconscious,

 As you explore and release childhood feelings and emotions, the more room you create for loving, peaceful feelings.  All these exercises may seem silly, but when you excavate your dark, destructive emotions it allows you to love more. You cannot love unless you feel and it is vital to feel painful feelings. All this inner work will help you grow emotionally, as well as spiritually.  Learn to love your parents unconditionally and forgive them for past mistakes. You will begin to like yourself more and more, and this is how you become a better Mother and human being. This love, like an umbilical cord, will connect to you and your child.  Love is never broken!

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