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Expectations…are they good or bad?

It’s healthy to have dreams, goals and desires in life.The real trick is to accept the outcome realizing that there is good in everything.It’s truly a balancing act!

How many of us live life without any expectations?  I know that I don’t.  As a human being I have a perspective of how things SHOULD be or how people SHOULD behave.  So with all these great expectations what usually follows is disappointment.  Then our story within ourselves starts to take a life of its own and our disappointment starts to fester like a sore filling up with pus of anger, hurt and resentment.  “You did this to me after I been so good to you.”  Then you become a victim and start defending yourself against the world. The inner turmoil and conflict grows. Sound familiar?

If you really want to develop and grow spiritually this lesson could be number one on your bucket list.  A daily practice of letting go of any expectations of how your day or life needs to be or look like could be tremendously freeing and transformative.  Stop making your life WRONG.  Be patient with yourself as you cultivate this new way of thinking and feeling.  It’s like a new muscle that needs time, practice and patience to become really strong.  But like a strong, fit physique brings good health, working on your inner mind will bring peace, tranquility and harmony.

Set yourself free! Oops…is that another expectation?

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Complaining…..it holds you back!

You’re complaining…it’s raining or what else is bothering you?  Did you ever stop and LISTEN to all the whining and complaining?  It will wear you out.  I stopped in my local coffee shop for my daily cup of coffee and listened while the owner complained to every customer.  She complained that her help never shows up.  She complained about customers complaining and today was the day she was going to call up an interested buyer to buy the shop.  Then my twenty one year old daughter came home from a long day.  She complained about school and her job. Be more positive I advised, ” See the good.”  Her reply: “I don’t want to hear your BS right now.”   My client showed up ten minutes late and complained that the driver in front of him was driving ten miles per hour in the snowstorm and braking every two seconds.  Later that same evening, I visited Facebook to hear all the complaints about the recent Massachusetts State Senatorial election.  WOW….. I’m even complaining about everyone complaining!

I invite all of you reading this Blog to join me in eliminating this bad habit…after all,  it keeps you from focusing on the important things in life.  Here are my recommendations:

1. Stop yourself before the complaint comes out of your mouth.
2. Take a deep breath.
3. Ask yourself, what is the purpose of my complaining?
4. Does complaining make things better?
5. Do you have the need to be right at the expense of making others wrong?
6. Complaining is a habit that needs & can be broken.
7. Keep score and reduce your # of complaints per day….remember, life is a journey.
8. Accept yourself and others for who they are……not who you want them to be.

I believe that  if you take this step, you will start to view the world through a ‘different lens.’   Life is a gift…..including every experience and person that touches you along the way.   It, truly, is a wonderful life!

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Tiger Woods ~ Judgment Day!

Judgment is truly low energy and something that keeps us from reaching our true spiritual potential as human beings.  The media once again is in a feeding frenzy over the Tiger Woods’ situation. Television and radio talk hosts are debating the character of Tiger Woods.  I don’t know about all of you but I am tired of this. Gossip serves the lower aspects of our souls because we delight in the fall of grace of a wealthy, public figure. It makes us feel good that someone so successful has screwed up.

The most famous spiritual teacher, Jesus said: “He who has not sinned cast the first stone.” All of us have the potential inside of us to commit any of the seven deadly sins. I know that the only person in this world I can change is ME.  I made a decision quite a number of years ago to stop judging other people. This has required a lot of mental self discipline and observation of my own inner world. Every negative aspect of humanity lies within me…it is not outside of me.  We have been given a book of rules and when any deviates from them, we all hammer our gavels with a guilty verdict. It is time to toss out the gavel and the rule book. On a spiritual level we don’t know the full spectrum of the lessons within an individual soul. For example, Betrayal can be a huge opportunity for a person to grow spiritually. ….the betrayed as well as the betrayer.

1. Stop yourself from judging and criticizing another person.  Let’s make a commitment to ourselves not to engage in gossip and purchase material that preys off the difficulties of others.   See if what you’re judging in another person’s character is inside of you.

2. Cultivate the virtue of compassion for others as well as for ourselves because ultimately one day we all will fall down from grace.

3.  Offer each other a helping hand, rather than a life sentence of guilt and shame.

Remember, mistakes can be our greatest teacher…….however, you are not the Judge or Jury for others – be compassionate!

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