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Crisis is an opportunity….for change

Crisis is an opportunity to readjust things in our life that we have been unwilling to change.Our egos obstruct change so the consciousness will create a crisis that will facilitate the change.It comes in different forms to all of us: such as illness, loss of job, divorce or a death of a loved one.The more painful the upheaval, the more it is showing you your own resistance to shift circumstances in your life.Change is an integral part of the universe. In order to grow spiritually, you need to set yourself free from your own negativity, destructiveness and build a life based on spiritual truths of harmony, love and beauty.

We can choose another way of growing……make a conscious decision to be in touch with our inner most feelings & desires, in order to facilitate changes without resistance. If you find yourself in a challenging situation, accept things as they are and stop lamenting that this shouldn’t be happening to you. Ask yourself these questions:

1.  Do you believe that you are capable of creating a wonderful life?

2.  Do you know that you can resolve all your problems?

3.  Do you trust that there are infinite possibilities for you?

If you want your life to be different, you have to be willing to address your resistance ‘head on’ and drive for lasting change.Be aware of why this is happening and focus on the positive outcome of the change! All those dark days and nights will turn into a “Light “switch. Flip it on!!!!

 

 

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Divorce……make it work!

Relationships are the key to our “enlightenment.” How we feel about ourselves is always reflected in our personal relationships. People blame others for all of their unhappiness, but that is clearly one of the biggest lies that we can tell to ourselves. No one on this planet is perfect, but we can be perfect for each other through love and acceptance. When one needs to be “RIGHT” to make the other” WRONG” this is a fundamental error in developing a spiritual and more evolved relationship.

A divorce is a somewhat like death, where life changes create a personal and spiritual transformation. Personally, I believe in divorce….two people should not stay together if they do not love each other. With that said, it remains totally destructive to draw weapons and go to battle in divorce court. If children are involved, they are exposed to their parent’s venom and wounds. Did you ever think that if you want to end a marriage, you do not need an excuse or reason to make your partner wrong or bad?

.A self-aware individual will look within and find the reason that the relationship is not working….an emotional, immature person will always put the bulk of the blame on the other. When two people relate to each other, both of them equally carry the responsibility for the relationship. Difficulties and fears arise in our interactions when you are still blaming the other person. You look at their faults and tend to magnify the situation; your expectations can never be met at this point.

If you want a relationship to blossom, start with being kind to yourself. Give up your own self hatred and your negative distortions and attitude towards yourself. Extend love to another person freely without control or underlying fear. Two people coming together in a loving relationship is one of the most powerful and joyful experiences a person can have. If you decide to divorce, do it with respect for your former partner….. leave the drama for television!

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Who am I….really?

Did you ever ask yourself this question?  I have.  When we were children, our beliefs were formulated by our parents, teachers, and religious doctrines.  We wanted to fit in and be accepted and loved, so we started to create a false persona to get the approval that we needed.  We desperately wanted to be the “special” one.

Some of us succeeded in creating an idealized or imaginary self, that gets love and approval, while others outwardly rebelled, rejecting society’s systems…..ironically, both of these survival techniques are the same.  No one is actually being true to their real self; our defenses constantly surround us like armor with the fear of rejection or being exposed for who we really are.  Of course, no one can possibly live up to the expectations of this idealized ego.  Eventually, some life crisis like a divorce, loss of a job or an illness comes into our life like a tidal wave to wake us up.  So how do we discover who we really are?

1.  Give up the struggle.

2.  Recognize that self contempt is underlying most anxieties and depression.

3.  When you are habitually angry at other people, ask yourself why you cannot live up to your own expectations.

4.  Realize that you have nothing to hide from others.

5.  Accept that not everyone is going to like or love you.

6.  Be patient with yourself.

7.  Seek out help to breakthrough these ‘old’ patterns & beliefs.

8.  Ask yourself, in what areas of your life is your ‘false-self’ operating?

9.  Trust in your feelings. They are your radar, guiding you towards your true self.

Coming to self awareness takes time, courage, truthfulness and perseverance.  It is the greatest accomplishment of coming home to the real you…..which, by the way, is perfect!

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Spring Cleaning….in more ways than one!

Today is the first day of spring and a very powerful day. On this special day, we can look into our own lives and clean out what is no longer necessary. The recent flooding is a good opportunity to throw things out that no longer serves us anymore; this includes both the material, as well as emotional debris that we carry within ourselves.  Make this a joyful celebration of “LETTING GO.”

As buds and seeds start to sprout, it’s an opportunity to start preparing the ground work for creating what you want in your life…….unfortunately, most of us spend time focusing on what we don’t want. So how do we get started?  Here are some steps to take:

1. Clean out your closets, basements, attics, garages, refrigerators and throw out what you don’t need or use.
2. Connect with nature. Work outside cleaning up or taking a walk and observe nature in action. It is coming to life after winter. How can you come into a new life?
3. Make a list of your “Top 3 Dreams” – get creative and take steps towards making these dreams come true.
4. Let go of past mistakes and past hurts. Carrying this emotional baggage only holds you back from living a fulfilling life.
5. Forgive yourself and then forgive others.
6. Dare to think and feel in different ways…..Be Bold!
7. Be courageous to truly know thyself and heal what is holding you back.
8. Spring into action and develop a ‘KNOWING’ not a ‘HOPING’ that your deepest wishes can come true.

The days ahead are brighter, in more ways than one…..so, too, is our future if we plant the seeds now for this exciting personal transformation!

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Lady in Red…..STOP forcing pain in your life!

The real question is why are we creating so much pain in our life?   Our whole society is addicted to pain and the only way out for most of us is drugs and alcohol.  We want a quick fix.  What can we do differently?  First a quick story…..

 Saturdays in the afternoon you can find me dressing women in my daughter’s boutique “Twilight.”  I have always had a passion for fashion since childhood and it really balances out the inner work I do with clients Monday thru Friday. Saturday is for feeling good on the outside.  A couple of weeks ago I was assisting a young woman in purchasing a dress when I noticed another woman scurry into the dressing room with a bright red dress.  The bright red dress was like a traffic signal to me.  Stop. I wanted to screech out.  Don’t try on that dress.  In my opinion the dress was all wrong for her body type and she was setting herself up for a disaster.  I suggested before she went into the dressing room to get a size up for the dress tended to run small.  Moments later she was calling to me to help zip the dress up, the zipper would not budge.  I saw all her disappointment, frustration and going through her body.  I kindly suggested that there were lots of other dresses and I could find one for her.  “I want this one,” she replied.  I left the dressing room but the rescuer in me wanted her to feel good.  I quickly went to the dress rack and found another bright red dress, but I knew from my styling experience would flatter and fit her curvy shape.  I showed her the dress and she exploded ” Don’t you get it? I want this one and only this one.”  ” I get it now.” I answered.  I put the dress back on the rack and watched her storm out of the store like it was my fault that the dress she wanted didn’t fit.

  The situation got me thinking about how many of us set our sights on something that isn’t quite right for us… like a job or relationship. But we stay there even though it doesn’t feel good. We want this one. We are then hurt, frustrated and suffering. We keep persisting at the expense of not feeling good.  As a healer, here is what I recommend:

 1.  Look within and ask yourself where there is pain in your life?

2.   Ask the pain what it is trying to show you, that you need to change.

3.   Know that you can make different choices that make you happy.

4.  Stop forcing things to work when you know they cannot. Let go.

5.  If there is a desire that you want and are not getting, trust that the universe is going to bring you something or someone even better than you imagined.

I challenge you to expand your wardrobe a/k/a your life!  Be daring and bold and deserve the best.  The next time your try on a pair of shoes that don’t fit maybe you’ll toss them aside and find a great pair that feel good and look great.  Walk in those shoes into a wonderful, pain free life!

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